Emotional Safety in a Neurodiverse Relationship: Why It’s Hard—and How to Build It
Emotional safety is the quiet foundation of love. In neurodiverse relationships, it often slips through the cracks. Here’s how to name it, rebuild it, and feel it again.
The Weight We Don’t See: Understanding Mental Load and Emotional Weight
There are burdens we carry that no one sees — not even us, sometimes. Mental load and emotional weight help name the invisible work many of us do to hold our relationships and homes together. Here’s how to recognize what you might be carrying — and why you’re not alone.
4 Conversations We Weren’t Ready to Have
Some conversations come too early to land—or too late to help. These four changed everything once we were finally ready to hear each other.
8 Emotional Needs I Didn’t Know I Was Silencing
If you’ve been downplaying your needs to keep the peace in your relationship, this list of 8 emotional truths might help you reclaim what you’ve been pushing down.
6 Times I Thought We Were Speaking the Same Language—But Weren’t
In neurodiverse relationships, communication misfires are common. Here are six moments that looked like connection—but turned out to be misalignment.
4 Signs You’re Carrying More Than Your Share
In a neurodiverse relationship, it’s easy to over-function without realizing it. Here are four signs you might be carrying more than your share—and what to do about it.
10 Things I Wish I’d Known at the Beginning
Looking back, here are 10 truths about neurodiverse love I wish someone had told me sooner—before the heartbreak, the confusion, and the deep learning.
7 Things That Helped When We Couldn’t Seem to Hear Each Other
There were moments in our relationship where we simply couldn’t seem to hear each other—no matter how hard we tried. We'd sit at the same table, use the same words, even look into each other's eyes… and still walk away feeling misunderstood, unseen, or deeply alone.
5 Things That Made Me Stay (Even When It Was Hard)
Beneath the disorganization, the missed cues, the shutdowns—there was someone with deep integrity. Someone who loved me. Who wanted connection, even if he didn’t always know how to access it. I could feel the goodness in him. And that mattered.
3 Truths About Masking You Might Not See at First
Many people with ADHD or dyslexia are practiced at tuning in deeply during first impressions. It’s part of how they’ve learned to navigate the world. Hyperfocus can feel like intense intimacy. But it isn’t always sustainable.
5 Things You’re Not Imagining in a Neurodiverse Relationship
Here are five things that are very real—and very common—in relationships where one or both partners are neurodivergent (especially when ADHD or dyslexia are involved).
behind the memoir
Behind every story lies another story — the quiet moments, the questions that lingered, and the lessons that kept unfolding long after the pages were written.
Behind the Memoir is where I gather the reflections, memories, small windows into daily life, and unseen layers that shaped the journey of writing My Dyslexic Husband.
It’s a space for the questions I carried, the lessons I’m still learning, the fleeting moments that ground me, and the stories that didn’t fit neatly inside the book but still shaped its heart.
If you’re walking your own journey through love, learning, or letting go — I hope you find something here that reminds you you’re not alone.